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Why She Stays or Goes Back

She may stay because she takes it as her responsibility.

She sees it as up to her to work things out and save the relationship. She sincerely believes that she must give 110% to make the relationship/marriage work.  But the problem is the violence, not the relationship.  As long as her abuser is treating her abusively and violently, the 'relationship' will require exactly 100% of her, including her freedom, her health, her safety, her heart, her soul, her spirit, and even her very life. Nothing she does or doesn't do can make him stop abusing her or make the relationship what she wants it to be. Its up to the abuser to take responsibility for the abuse, and for stopping it. Only then may the relationship possibly begin to be healthy. 
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